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Boy, I’m irritable today! Someone switched brains with me when I wasn’t looking because usually, decorating the Christmas tree doesn’t bug the hell out of me. The ornaments wouldn’t hang straight and the topper wouldn’t sit still and it just seemed like everything was against me! Against me, I say!

/minirant

Today, dear reader, I pose to you a question:
How reasonably cool is UNreasonably cool when it comes to your significant other having friends of the opposite gender?

All of us want to be the cool partner. We want to be chill, alright with them hanging out one-on-one, and we definitely don’t want to be jealous. But is there a point where you cross the line from reasonably cool to being unreasonably cool? This is a difficult question. In addition to not wanting to be the needy girlfriend/boyfriend, we don’t like dealing with questions like this. At least, I don’t. I’d rather just push everything aside and pretend we don’t have differences or jealousy. I’d rather pretend I’m okay with whatever he chooses to do, and not address the issue when it comes up. (It all comes down to talking to each other, huh? Sigh.)

But, we’re human. And we can only shove the issues we have with the other aside for so long before one of two things happens:
You explode and come off as the crazy person,
or,
You REALLY don’t care anymore. You basically train yourself to not care.

If you aren’t willing to talk it out with your spouse, pick your poison. Because they’re both poison, and they’re both a recipe for complete disaster in your relationship. 
Let’s all talk a little bit more, and not pretend so much. 

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Thanksgiving Dinner

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It’s me again. I thought I’d make a post on my Thanksgiving dinner recipes, since they’re ultimately FABULOUS.

We’ll lead with my favorite:
Candied Sweet Potatoes
4 lbs sweet potatoes, quartered
1 1/4 Cups Margarine (I used butter.. IT’S BETTER)
1 1/4 Brown Sugar
3 Cups Miniature Marshmallows
Ground Cinnamon to taste
Ground Nutmeg to taste
Preheat oven to 400; grease a 9×13. Boil your sweet potatoes, quartered, in a large pot till they’re just UNDER done. (‘Bout 15 minutes.) Combine the margarine, brown sugar, 2 cups of the marshmallows, and the spices in a sauce pan over medium heat and simmer till the marshmallows melt. Mash in your sweet potatoes, mix it all together, pour it in the pan and top it with marshmallows. BOOM. Candied Sweet Potatoes.

And, well.. I have to go cook some more so I have to finish this later. Eheh. 

How to Make a Homemade Face Scrub

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This evening, as I stood in front of the bathroom mirror, applying warm olive oil to my hair, I thought, man! I really need a good facial now, and my pampering would be complete! 

Google, how I love you.

Would you like to see the ideas I came up with? Of COURSE you would, inquisitive readers!

MOISTURIZE + TIGHTEN
I got this awesome recipe from THIS ARTICLE and they’re my favorite source for good facials.
1 C Salt
1/2 Olive Oil
1 Raw Tomato
Combine the Olive Oil and the Salt in a small bowl, then scoop out the innards of a tomato and mash it in. Voila. A moisturizing and tightening homemade facial!

What’s that? You want MORE? 

Greedy. 

SKIN RENEWAL SCRUB for hands and feet
1 C Sugar
3/4 C Grapeseed Oil
A few drops of Lavender Essential Oil
Mix it all up and rub it in. Really. Brag about how great you feel afterwards — let’s get the world to be more organic!

Also? Make sure you’re putting these scrubs into airtight containers. Especially any with fresh fruit or veggies — they need to be refrigerated as well as airtight. 

A Modest Proposal in Switzerland: Breathe, and Get Paid

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Bwaaaaa? So it’s basically taking the idea that Alaska has with the Permanent Fund Dividend and running with it.

Books I Read

One of the wealthiest countries in the world, Switzerland, is considering a proposal that will entitle every single citizen of the country a guaranteed monthly income on which to live (“payment for being alive”):

The proposal is, in part, the brainchild of a German-born artist named Enno Schmidt, a leader in the basic-income movement. He knows it sounds a bit crazy. He thought the same when someone first described the policy to him, too. “I tell people not to think about it for others, but think about it for themselves,” Schmidt told me. “What would you do if you had that income? What if you were taking care of a child or an elderly person?” Schmidt said that the basic income would provide some dignity and security to the poor, especially Europe’s underemployed and unemployed. It would also, he said, help unleash creativity and entrepreneurialism: Switzerland’s workers would feel empowered…

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The Power of Labels, inspired by Joss Whedon’s Speech on Feminism

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We’ve all heard the phrase, “Behind every great man is a woman who made him that way,” and nodded our heads in agreement and smiled knowingly to each other. There are women who believe that females are the superior gender, and men who believe women shouldn’t vote. There are people of both genders who are offended by the fact that the president is male.

There are those who think an African-American shouldn’t be in a leading role for Americans and individuals who criticize others based on color, race, and political stance. 

Labels.

We all use them. “She’s an equestrian,” “He’s a painter.”

Associations.

I had a discussion about association with my friend Jenny the other day, and we came to the conclusion that no matter what, people WILL associate. When someone says, “I love Coldplay!” I automatically think of my boyfriend. I associate their love of a particular band with my boyfriend and immediately feel a connection. 

Connections.

They say when you go abroad, you start seeing people you know everywhere you go, but it’s just your brain working to make connections in a place where you recognize nothing. 

But here’s a problem with connections and associations:
They lead to discrimination. Expectations. Misunderstandings.

I’m not saying we need to cease all connections and associations. I’m saying, awareness and the Golden Rule is the key to peace.

“But last week, I saw a black person say he didn’t like coffee, and since you’re black, you must be the same way.”

“Um, all blondes are stupid, because this one time, a blonde thought such-and-such.”

“Girls are all emotional.”

What if we were to take a look at the individual instead of the whole? Instead of seeing the forest, let’s zoom in and look at the trees. Individually. 

Because, dude — I’m sick of labels.

Joss Whedon recently did a speech to a bunch of feminists on feminism and its moniker, and how he didn’t like the label itself. My favorite quote from his entire spiel was, “The word ‘racism’ didn’t end racism,” and I have to agree. But the media has to have a way to categorize everything neatly, and that’s how I see these specific terms: “racism,” “feminism,” and more —  they’re categorizations so that the media can organize every issue into tidy little piles. 

That’s not to say that I don’t believe that racism and feminism and all of that is real and alive and well. Because it is.

If someone walked up to me and told me that I shouldn’t date my boyfriend because he’s black and I’m white and it’s wrong, I’d likely tell them, kindly, to butt out and stop being a racist. And then I would realize that I used a term I can’t stand, and that I didn’t treat the individual like an individual, but like a whole. I categorized them in my mind. Maybe they had a really bad experience once, and they were merely looking out for me. Maybe they have tons of African-American friends and didn’t mean it like it came out. MAYBE, it’s how they were raised, and they don’t know any better. But to immediately become offended and label them a racist will not SOLVE the problem – it will merely give it a moniker and smooth your ruffled feathers. You will have lowered yourself to their standards. 

Maybe if, instead of becoming offended and reacting with anger to someone’s racist or feminist or what-have-you sentiments, we raised a white flag and had a conversation with them and got to know their point of view, we could somehow communicate to them WHY their connections and associations are hurtful and harmful to society. 

Maybe if we’re kind instead of defensive, we can do more to change society’s labels than standing up and saying, “You’re WRONG, and we’re RIGHT.” 

Maybe if we ALL shared an open mindset instead of insisting that the offender have one while we negatively reproved them with a closed mind to THEIR point of view, we’d change the world.

We’d shake the world. 

My Top 5 Favorite Book Quotes

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#1 – Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte
When I was a little girl, I read the abridged version of this book. It quickly became my very favorite Charlotte Bronte writing and one of my favorite novels of all time. I’m a hopeless romantic, and this merely sums up how deeply one can fall in love with another’s heart.

“Most true is it that ‘beauty is in the eye of the gazer.’ My master’s colourless, olive face, square, massive brow, broad and jetty eyebrows, deep eyes, strong features, firm, grim mouth, — all energy, decision, will, — were not beautiful, according to rule; but they were more than beautiful to me; they were full of an interest, an influence that quite mastered me, — that took my feelings from my own power and fettered them in his. I had not intended to love him; the reader knows I had wrought hard to extirpate from my soul the germs of love there detected; and now, at the first renewed view of him, they spontaneously arrived, green and strong! He made me love him without looking at me.” 

#2 – A Girl of the Limberlost by Gene Stratton Porter
I first read A Girl of the Limberlost at age 13, and discovered the way Gene Stratton Porter makes you feel each word; the way they rest in your soul and touch your heart. What a phenomenal writer! Here is one of my favorite quotes from her. 

“There never was a moment in my life, when I felt so in the Presence, as I do now. I feel as if the Almighty were so real, and so near, that I could reach out and touch Him, as I could this wonderful work of His, if I dared. I feel like saying to Him: ‘To the extent of my brain power I realize Your presence, and all it is in me to comprehend of Your power. Help me to learn, even this late, the lessons of Your wonderful creations. Help me to unshackle and expand my soul to the fullest realization of Your wonders. Almighty God, make me bigger, make me broader!’”

#3 – Sense and Sensibility by Jane Austen
This quote has stuck with me for many, many years. 

“I have not wanted syllables where actions have spoken so plainly.” 

#4 – 1984 by George Orwell
The very definition of throwing someone “under the bus,” “survival of the fittest,” etc. I read somewhere that 1984 is not a very good novel, but an excellent essay. In any case, what a fantastic point he makes here in this quote:

“Sometimes they threaten you with something – something you can’t stand up to, can’t even think about. And then you say, “Don’t do it to me, do it to somebody else, do it to So-and-so.” And perhaps you might pretend, afterwards, that it was only a trick and that you just said it to make them stop and didn’t mean it. But that isn’t true. At the time when it happens you do mean it. You think there’s no other way of saving yourself, and you’re quite ready to save yourself that way. You WANT it to happen to the other person. You don’t give a damn what they suffer. All you care is yourself.” 

#5 – The BFG by Roald Dahl

“I cannot be right all the time. Quite often I is left instead of right.”